About Self Care
Self care is the number one thing that is important to me. I’m a firm believer that if you are not doing things to take care of yourself, that you will severely struggle to take care of others. On airplanes during the safety review they say “put your own oxygen mask on first before assisting others”. It’s something that really resonates with me. If I can’t help myself, how can I be present and help others? Chances are that I can’t. I personally know that there are certain things that make me feel my best. However, I challenge you to do the same and think about what makes you feel your best. If you are comfortable I would love to hear what those things are for you in the comments below. Or feel free to message me privately on Instagram and let me know!
Basic Self Care Checklist
To stimulate what that may be for you, I wanted to share my personal self care checklist with you.
Self Care Checklist #1: Therapy
This is something that I think isn’t talked about enough and there is shame around. In my opinion, therapy is beneficial for everyone’s mental health and you don’t have to be “broken” in order to start going, or to continue going.
Self Care Checklist #2: Physical Fitness
Exercise, or some level of physical fitness, has become one of the best things I have discovered in life. It provides mental clarity, peace, energy and strength. It pushes me in ways that I need to be pushed and helps me feel confident and strong when I achieve a goal I had set for myself. For example, I always hated running and was bad at it. I couldn’t run for longer then 30 seconds without feeling like dying. I am still not a “good” runner and it is hard for me, but I now can run a mile and that is so empowering. Setting small goals and achieving them does more than you think. Physical fitness is so much more than how you look.
Self Care Checklist #3: Sleep
Regulating my sleep cycle and setting a more predictable sleep schedule was life changing. I wrote about before how a lack of sleep can effect you negatively in so many ways of your life and I really believe it. No wonder babies are on a sleep schedule and have bedtimes because it makes such a difference for adults too! I’m not perfect and need to be flexible because not every day is the same but I have tried to create a routine for myself where I go to sleep and wake up at similar times everyday.
Self Care Checklist #4: The Beach
There is something about the beach that is so soothing and healing. Nothing like the smell of the ocean, listening to the waves or swimming in the water can bring me peace faster. I can stare at the ocean for hours and be the happiest girl. Anyone who knows me well, knows that I am in my happy place if I am even near the beach.
The Importance Of Taking Time For Yourself
The more I take time for myself, the more I see the value. I value and crave me time so much and I see how it benefits others too. I’m able to be a happy, calm, and present person for people in my life because I take the time to do what I need to do for me. So that I don’t bring my own issues into my time with others. I’m not perfect at this, but that is not the goal.
I am not Buddha and am not calm 100% of the time at all. However, I have also learned that the goal isn’t to be perfect or to even want perfection, it’s just to want to be a little bit better and to work at that. This is something that hasn’t come over night for me and I still am a work in progress, but I hope to always be. I know some days I’ll wake up and probably not feel great or want to strive for “perfection” but mostly I just want to do a little bit better than I was the day before and to be a good person.
What are your thoughts on this? How do you prioritize time for yourself? How do you see it pay off in your day to day life?