Family and Baby Series
I’m introducing a new guest series to Style by the People that I’m super excited about, written by my sister. My sister is my best friend in the world, one of the smartest people I know and a first time mom. She makes motherhood look easy, even though it is so far from that. She is honest, raw and she talks about family and baby things that no one else does. But before I get carried away and brag too much I’ll let her introduce herself…
Hi everyone! My name is Jessica. 13 months ago, the best and most life-changing thing happened to me, I became a mom to my sweet daughter.
While I’ve never been happier, this motherhood journey has been wild, fun, with twists and turns along the way. I’ve learned so much from baby groups, family and friends, but I continue to search for a blog written by a mom at a similar stage as me to follow, empathize with and learn from. So here I am to share my journey with you, in hopes that at the most, I can provide you with helpful tips, and at the the least, I can give you a laugh or two.
Tip #1: Yes, New Friends
Ignore DJ Khaled’s song that tells us “no new friends” and this is the time to say yes new friends while keeping the old.
Becoming a new mom is an incredible thing. Once I had my daughter, I gained a whole new level of respect for my mom. She worked hard physically and emotionally to be the supportive, involved mother she was. I have also been blown away by the community of women who became moms before me; they have welcomed me with open arms. Both close friends and acquaintances have gone out of their way to share advice, hand-me-downs, and support. I’ve found the mom community to be the most warm and inclusive group I’ve joined thus far.
Making Mom Friends
1. Join a mommy and me class.
There are tons of options from classes at local community centers, preschools, religious centers, local gyms and specialized classes. I go to Jackie’s class at Babies First Class in Sherman Oaks and love it. I also go to a class at a local preschool and a music class at someone’s house.
2. Go to your local park
Typically, babies in similar stages nap around the same time and can do the same activities at the park. Talk to the moms at the park (talking about your kid is the easiest small talk) and you can start your friendship by choosing another time to meet up at the park. It’s hardly a commitment!
3. Get set up
Your friends, or you, go on dating apps or get set up through friends, why can’t you do that with friends? Many of my mom friends are people I met through non-mom friends.
4. Join Facebook Groups
There are many great groups for local communities of moms on Facebook, like Mommy2Mommy. There are meet ups and other fun activities you can learn about through these groups. It might sound strange first at first, but it’s actually very helpful.
5. Take Your Baby Out With You
One of my close friends made her best mom friend at Trader Joe’s. I also made a friend at a toy store one day when I was looking for something different to do with my baby.
It feels like dating again, but putting yourself out there and making an effort with these new women will make your experience as a new mom wonderful!
I hope you liked this post and found this helpful! Let me know if you have any questions in the comments below or if you have any topic you’d like me to write about next, I’d love to hear and please share this with your friends or family who you think might like this! Talk to you next month.
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