New Years Day Thoughts
Happy New Year! I cannot believe it is now 2018. I used to always hear older people when I was younger saying “time flies” or “where has this year gone?” and I didn’t understand it at all, but now I do. When you’re “adulting“, life becomes about what’s next as you’re simultaneously experiencing what’s now (see my thoughts on that from last year’s New Years post). So, on that topic of what’s next, brings me to today’s post of New Years day thoughts.
Every year around this time I become super introspective and reflective. I think everyone probably does because the world has marked January 1st of every year to be a new beginning. In a sense, it is a day to set goals for the new year and reflect on the last. I am not really the person who sets a ton of resolutions for the year. Honestly I really do try to evaluate my life often and if I feel like something isn’t working, it’s hard for me to not change it quickly. However, I do like to look at what this past year has looked like for me and what my key takeaways are.
Five Lessons I Want To Bring With Me Into 2018
Before I start with my five takeaway from 2017 that I’d like to bring into 2018, I want to tell you a little about this year in an honest way. I find people around me, myself included, comparing ourselves to these perfect worlds and happy lives we see on the Internet and although it can be inspiring and motivational, at times, it can also be discouraging and make ourselves feel bad about our own lives. I thought it might be helpful as someone who does paint a pretty picture online, to tell you that this year has truly been amazing and my online world is not a lie, but that by no means was it not challenging.
I have had a lot of change happen in my life this year — some amazing (I got engaged) and some not so amazing that I won’t go into detail about. Some moments have been the happiest moments of my life to date and some have been really lonely. It’s easy when setting goals for the new year to be unrealistic with ourselves or maybe we try to set goals that are inspired from trying to match someone else’s outsides to our own insides. While that is totally fine, I just want to remind you to keep in mind that we all go through things and life isn’t always perfect.
Lesson #1 – Be Unapologetically You
I have spent so much time caring what other people will think, what other people will say, and what other people will do. What I’ve learned this year is that it only leads to resentment and sadness and lack of fulfillment in your own life. There is nothing more attractive than being unapologetically you. Owning who you are is the most freeing and most attractive quality in my opinion. It is something that I am not perfect at yet but have gotten a lot better at and am working on even more for this year. Confidence is sexy. We all are amazing. OWN IT.
Lesson #2 – Travel More, Always
No one ever says they wish they hadn’t traveled more when they were younger. Ever. You might hear someone say they wish they had traveled more, but never less. My goal in life is to feel alive always. I don’t want to live a life where I just coast by because, to me, that’s not living. While I’m young, healthy and don’t have kids – I want to travel. I want to SEE things. I want to learn first hand. I want do it all. Travel has become my school. It’s a way for me to learn in the most hands on way possible and to stay inspired.
Lesson #3 – Exercise Will Make You Happy
Exercise. Even when you don’t feel like it. I can’t believe I’m writing this because I used to dread exercising. I’m just not one of those “gym rats” who gets so excited for their next work out. I’m someone who enjoys it (most of the time) once I’m there but I need a trainer or a friend and a class to get me there. What I have realized now is that I am one of those people that LOVES the results of how I feel from exercising. Exercise gives me so much energy, and as someone who naturally has lower energy, I love when I find natural ways to give me an energy boost!
Lesson #4 – Work Smarter, Not Harder
This was probably one of the most genius saying I’ve heard and love it! It is so true. I used to always think you were a “better worker” if you worked the most hours. When I was 18, I remember I was one of my first friends to have a real job and I would brag about how many hours I worked. I did work hard at the time but I think now how it’s not about how many hours you work but it’s about the quality you work during those hours. Sometimes I work for 10 hours in a day and get the same amount of work done that I do another day in 2 hours. It’s all about smarter, not harder.
Lesson #5 – Be The Same You Always
Who are you when no one is looking? That should always be the question. My goal in life is to be the same person everywhere. I hope to be a kind, happy person to myself and to everyone. I hope to provide love, inspiration, and happiness whether the world is looking or if I’m home alone.
Lastly, GIVE BACK.
This isn’t numbered because it’s not exactly a lesson or a takeaway. Instead I’m going into 2018 I think focusing even more than usual on giving back is important. We always need to be giving back, but I believe with the way our world is right now, that it is especially important. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
With all of that, Happy, Happy New Year! I hope 2018 is your happiest, most successful year yet. I know I am going to make this mine :). xo